Who is your person?

If you spend as much time as I do in the car, you probably have a best friend named Spotify or iTunes. I know I do. But recently I have found myself listening, or perhaps forcing myself to listen, to less music and more podcasts, audiobooks, and motivational CDs on those venues. I am committing myself to continually learn and train and receive coaching throughout the day. It has been, contrary to my initial outlook, a very easy and enjoyable habit to maintain. 

One of the first CDs I listened through was about conquering self-doubt. And one of the most important ideas in it was the concept of developing your ideal self image. Basically, it’s this: whatever you picture as the ideal person, every character trait you admire, none of the flaws you don’t, with all of the lifestyle, health habits, attitudes, skills, everything you could  want a person to be. If we have a strong, clear concept of what that person would be like, our subconscious will constantly work toward developing those traits within ourselves.

I love that idea, and hearing it inspired me in a way I really needed to experience. I tend to latch onto different personalities and admire them almost beyond recognition, if that makes sense. I don’t think that’s a problem on its own, but it can be dangerous if you choose to make an actual person the model of your ideal person. You run the risk of either adopting or glossing over that person’s weaknesses (or both). But you also risk becoming a macaw. 
Some of the most important character traits I admire and hope to embody are individuality, originality, creativity, and genuineness. If you make another person the mold into which you want yourself to fit, you can’t be any of those things.

And no, you can’t just say, my ideal person is Jesus. I mean, obviously you can say that, but doing so would fall short of completing this exercise in a meaningful way.

So I am trying to assemble my ideal human being. I’ll just make a running list:

  • Loving
  • Thoughtful
  • Understanding 
  • Hilarious 
  • Creative
  • Compassionate 
  • Insightful
  • Wise
  • Teachable 
  • Organized
  • Athletic 
  • Sensitive 
  • Emotional
  • Passionate
  • Sensible 
  • Generous 
  • Fun
  • Good cook 
  • Industrious 
  • Strong
  • Good with kids
  • Musical
  • Bartender 
  • Smart
  • Responsible 
  • Trustworthy
  • Genuine
  • Independent 
  • Confident 
  • Original 
  • Brave 
  • Honest
  • Loyal
  • Tenacious 

I don’t know. It’s a lot of things to be, but I want to be all of those, in my own way. And maybe the happiest people are the ones who become exactly what they picture in their minds. 

What about you? Who is your ideal person?

2 Replies to “Who is your person?”

  1. Oh! I so needed to read this today. I have a new-ish friendship in my life. My friend has a great many qualities I admire (most of the ones you list, as a matter of fact) and I find myself trying to cultivate some of these qualities in myself. I need to take care that I’m doing that to be the best possible and most genuine me, not just more like him. So much to think about here. Thanks!

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